Several years ago, my Dutch nephew, who lives in the U.K and was studying theology at the time, recommended a book by a Filipino pastor. Intrigued by the title, as well as the route of the recommendation, I got hold of a copy and read it.
‘It’s OK to be Not OK: The Message of the Lament Psalms’ by Federico (Rico) G. Villanueva is a gem of a book! First published, I think, around 9 years ago, it paved the way, gave us permission perhaps, for Filipino and Dutch and British Christians alike, to be a little bit more honest and a little bit less ‘happy-clappy’.
The main message I remember from that book is about how, at certain points in our individual and collective lives, lamenting is not an optional extra.
In some situations, it’s the only legitimate next step.
By the way, lamenting is not just an ‘Old Testament thing’. Jesus lamented over Jerusalem, over the death of his friend Lazarus, in the garden of Gethsemane, on the Cross…
To lament means, for example, to weep, wail, complain, grieve, howl, moan, cry out.
>> How do we lament?
Very recently, our own pastor in the Philippines talked about ‘The Language of Lament’.
You can watch it here:
“You’re given permission to sit in your pain and sulk in it and think about how you felt,” he says.
Also collectively, as a community, as a society: “There’s a way lamenting can actually lead to social change.”
Lamenting is sometimes the only appropriate response to a reality check.
And the only way to move forward:
to joy, to love, to forgiveness, freedom,
As Pastor Bebs asks:
>> Have we given ourselves the chance to lament?
>> Have we given ourselves permission to use robust language to express what we felt when our world fell apart?
>> It’s not meant to be a permanent exercise, but have we ever gone through the few moments just to admit that something actually hurt? And in that admission, that it would fester less, that we would be able to release it and find healing.
NB. Related to the subjects of collective reality checks and lament, two articles: